~NO HEART IS TOO BIG OR TOO SMALL TO BE WHOLE~
Dominika Kosowska, BA, MA
Insights & Connections - Newsletter Issue #1
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Whole Hearts Matter on FRIENDS OF CFCR
Whole Hearts Matter is a non-profit Peer Support and Counselling initiative that I started from all the love and passion I have for navigating people of all ages through and out of their suffering and discomfort - because "I have been there and I can relate." My personal journey of healing and recovery started almost a decade ago when I immigrated to Canada from London, England where I was a teacher/educator and a tutoring business owner for over 17 years. The move across the world was extremely difficult to me. What followed was life of single-parenthood due to escalating domestic violence; that truly brought me to my knees. The lack of family support, substantial help, resources and community was absolutely unbearable. My life was spinning out of control, my dreams crumbled into a million pieces and my heart was far from whole; it was broken, bleeding, crying for help in all the ways I knew. Then the diagnoses started coming out: post-partum depression, severe anxiety disorder, Childhood-PTSD, autoimmune condition...the amount of piling-up stress was sucking all the joy out of me. The glow I used to have prior to all of this was gone. I started losing weight, my face was pale, I felt lifeless and with no reason to live. I did not know how to be there for my child, how to be there for myself. The darkest, scariest thoughts were creeping in often. Miraculously, with help from the fellowship of recovery, I managed to get and SEEK HELP! By TALKING to people and for the first time in my life – SHARING my story and slowly HEALING. The journey started, the need to learn about my Mental/Emotional Health, the spark of unstoppable curiosity, the journey of discovering who I am started a new purpose in my life! The search took me all the way back to my childhood. Alcoholism, violence, emotional and verbal abuse, neglect, abandonment, lies; my entire upbringing was under a microscope... And it all finally started to make sense. It all finally clicked. It opened my eyes to the fact that I do not have to repeat the cycle of my upbringing - I decided to break it (or rather bend it to start with). It became my mission, my motivation, my determination, my drive. The more I was learning about myself, the more I was able to RELATE TO others, and others to me. The more I was aware of my suffering, the more I could help those who were still suffering. I started to dive deep into Trauma Work, esp. Childhood Developmental Trauma, Domestic Violence/Abuse (verbal, emotional, physical, financial, sexual, etc.) and Sexualized Violence: reading books, participating in trainings, workshops, webinars, attending group meetings and therapy, gaining more knowledge, more experience, more language. In 2018 I started volunteering for Victim Services - right there and right then I knew that THIS IS HOW I AM GOING TO SPEND MY LIFE - helping, listening, holding space, validating, acknowledging, laughing and crying together. The Lived Experiences throughout my life have enabled me to relate to every client (big and small) in a very raw, intimate way - different experiences yet the same pain. That is the gift I have received - connection on a heart level. On a soul level. Every client brings so many gifts to my life. Every client is of the same importance. Every client's experiences MATTER to me! All Hearts Matter. Mine as much as Yours and Yours as much as Mine.